How to keep a relationship

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For sure love is very important for a romantic relationship, but it still not enough. It requires more effort from both partners. Here are some of the many ways to keep a relationship:

  1. Positive/negative ratio                                                                                                          In order to have a solid relationship the amount of positive experiences have to outweigh the negative one. There is a special ratio for that and it is 4:1. So if there is a conflict, which is negative, there should be 4 positive experiences afterwards, before a new negative experience comes in. So, it is a good idea to focus on the positive. Think positive and talk positive like I’m happy to come home in a clean house.
  2. Keep the relationship fresh                                                                                              You will get bored after a while, but there is a way to keep it alive by constantly trying new activities together. Addtionally, it also can be couple rituals like dating on every saturday or talking half an hour before going to bed.
  3. Take the relationship easy                                                                                            When your partner says something bothering, just respond it with a joke instead of becoming defensive.
  4. Common goal                                                                                                                   Being a team is good way to strengthen the bond between you. So both of you should make a future plan, that everybody is happy about.
  5. Respect your partner’s privacy                                                                                       The paradox of the relationship, that we want closeness and space. So the solution is to find a balance between it.
  6. AAA                                                                                                                                           It stands for apology, affection and action. If you do something, that annoys your partner, you can do these 3 things and calm them down. First to tell your partner, that you are sorry, that you’ve hurt them. Second is being affectionate like giving a hug or kiss and the last one is to promise to not repeat again.
  7. Support your partner                                                                                                    Helping them to achieve their goal is one way to support your partner, but there are many other ways to do it like listening to your partner, giving compliments, giving them necessary information etc.
  8. Open up yourself                                                                                                                  It’s a key to emotional intimacy. Tell your partner, how you feel, your fears, needs and wants, so your partner has got a chance to satisfy you.
  9. Showing your love                                                                                                              Telling your partner, that you love them is good. Additionally, show your love is better. For example by making breakfast for your partner or buy a little surprise gift while shopping etc.
  10. Fight fair                                                                                                                                   It’s not about winning the battle. It’s more about compromising, so that both partners are satisfied.

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International money

International money

International money

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Bank transfer money

I’ve transferred with the regular bank 500€ to Vietnam and the fee was 36,55€, which is about 7,31% fee!

If I do it with TransferWise, it will cost me only 7,39€, which is only 1,48% fee.

transferwise

You can check on this website, how much the fee will be, if you send money from one country to another country. There you can see, that it is significantly lower, than any other money transfers. So in this example, you save about 30€ for every 500€ bank transfer from Germany to Vietnam. On top of that, they give you a better exchange rate! At that time according to Google, it is only 25,821.59! It’s not only cheaper than banks, but also cheaper than Paypal or exchange offices. You can save even more money compared to Western Union, which charges about 10%, because of its high exchange rate fee.

Update 25th May 2018

Now they start offering a multicurrency bank account in $, £ and €! No fees! With a MasterCard debit card. Very handy while traveling, because you can use it worldwide with the advantage of real exchange rate, so you also can save money while traveling and with the TransferWise app, you can see in real time your expenditures.

It is also very easy and fast to open this multicurrency bank account, because everything happens online. You don’t need to go anywhere to register for it. Just upload your ID and that’s it. You will get your debit card within a week and I get an US American bank account, Australian bank account at the same time etc.

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Difficult relationship

conflict

There are many ups and downs in a relationships. How you handle conflicts in a relationship is crucial to keep it stable. So here are some tips. Statements, that you can tell your partner.

  1. What do you need from me?                                                                                       There are many miscommunications, because men and women are different, so they communicate differently. This question is a good opportunity to let your partner open up to you, so that you know your partners wants and needs to be able to satisfy and supporting them.
  2. Make an excuse                                                                                                                Even when you don’t know, that you did anything, that upset her, you still have to say sorry. To avoid making her upset in the future, it is for sure better to understand, what you did wrong to her to not repeat it again. Saying sorry is also to admit your faults to let your partner know, that you care for their feeling.
  3. Appreciation                                                                                                                       Show your gratitude, when they do something nice for you. Let your partner feel, that they are a priority in your life.
  4. I’m proud of you                                                                                                                 You are there for your partner. Whatever challenges your partner is facing, you should be there for them.
  5. I love you                                                                                                                           Show your love as often as possible, because women don’t want to hear and see it once, but many times even every day. Relationship is also commitment, so you have to make efforts.

Signs you should marry this person

marriage

Here some of the many signs, that the person you are with is the one.

  1.  it is easy to talk about everything. It also can be deep conversation or even no conversation at all.
  2. You have the same goal like city to live in, marriage, kids, moving to a new place, changing your career etc.
  3. You want to be with this person. Sure it is possible to live by yourself, but you prefer not to, because it makes you happy being around your partner.
  4. You can reveal your true self like weaknesses, personal situation, habits, wants and needs etc. without being judged, because they accept everything of you.
  5. You overcome conflicts and fights without coming to the breaking point. Instead the relationship gets deepened.

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Signs of a good relationship

Signs of a healthy, long lasting relationship
Signs of a healthy, long lasting relationship

Relationship takes work. It takes effort of both sides to make it last. Here are some indicators, that your relationship will last hopefully forever.

You argue
It’s good to have your own opinion instead of always saying yes. If you don’t argue at all, it also can mean, that you don’t care about your relationship any more.
You don’t hide your flaws
You can show your true self without hiding yourself. Loving someone is not only about admiring their strengths, but also accepting and not judging their weaknesses.
You communicate
Being open is important to be able to satisfy and make your partner happy. That’s why relationships aren’t not based on assumption, but on communication. No topic is taboo. Being open, honest and direct is also good to sort out many problems.
Maintaining identity
It’s nice to please your partner, but it doesn’t mean, that you have to sacrifice everything for your partner. Don’t forget about your needs, that it also has to be fulfilled to be happy, because every partner in the relationship has to be happy.
You support each other
Helping your partner to achieve their goal instead of hindering it. Jealousy and envious is not right, because you care for your partner, so you want him or her to succeed. Standing side by side.
Being in love inspires you to be the best version of yourself, so that you are able to satisfy more of your partner’s needs.
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Relationships

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Every normal relationships go through mostly this kind of stages.

  1. Dating Stage: You get to know each other and you find interest to each other. There are some common sense, so there is a possibility to be in a relationship.
  2. The 1st Fight Stage: There will be arguments and feelings will be hurt. At this stage, you will know, whether your relationship will break or last. There will be also criticism to make your partner better.
  3. The Adaption Stage: You have to make compromises to find balance in your relationship. After that the relationship will be stable for a while before you begin to doubt.
  4. The Doubting Stage: You start to doubt, whether you really want to commit to someone like him or her for that long.
  5. The Trust Stage: You trust your partner totally with your heart.