By Elephant on the Road
Valentine’s Day is around the corner and I’m feeling very romantic. I finally have a date to see my boyfriend and after 5 months of distance, we will see each other again on February 18th. Which had me thinking… I should totally write a post about things to love about your long distance relationship. Because we all need encouraging words here and there. And what’s the best way to do it? By remembering all those great things that come with being in a long-distance relationship.
THINGS TO LOVE ABOUT YOUR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIP
1. YOU TRUST YOUR PARTNER
Being in a long-distance relationship can bring many insecurities at the beginning. The constant ‘what ifs’ can make the situation even worst. But everything gets better with time. For many can be hard to trust easily and being so far from your significant others force you to do it. I mean, if you are starting this relationship you must believe in your partner and trust that he or she won’t break your heart.
What other choices you have anyway? Go crazy with jealousy? Start fights over small things? That’s not healthy, and it makes the whole relationship harder to maintain. Just trust and hope for the best. This is one of my favorites things to love about your long distance relationship. You learn how to trust your partner so much, small things don’t bother you anymore.
2. YOU HAVE MORE TIME FOR YOURSELF
Relationships consume a lot of time, and I don’t say that as a bad thing. Spending your time with your significant other is an amazing thing. After all, we are with that person because we love to spend the time together. But at the same time, it’s good to have a balance between every aspect of your life. Your friends, family, school, work, and even your hobbies. Being in a long distance relationship makes that balance so much easier to achieve.
And even though you are doing something else, you can still be in contact via text message. Just remember that if your partner isn’t answering… he or she is not avoiding you. They are just doing something else. I have to admit that I had a hard time understanding that when my boyfriend started working. We had more time when we both were in school and that suddenly changed. From getting texts throughout the day, to only certain times a day. The change was hard, but I learned to love the extra time to do something else.
3. YOU MASTER YOUR COMMUNICATION SKILLS
I have written about this issue many times. We all know how easily can be to misunderstand someone’s text message. This is something everybody can relate. It happens with friends, co-workers, literally everyone. We depend on emojis, and if we don’t use them, we risk sounding rude or upset. While in a long distance relationship the last things we want is, start a fight over something so silly, like sounding too rude in your message.
So after two years in this relationship, I have learned how to communicate my feelings and how to write them. Yes, I might be upset witing a message, but I have to add that extra smiley face because we aren’t together to work it out. And I don’t want to make it worst.
It takes times to understand it, but you learn eventually. Keeping your arguments to the minimum is the best. Although… we all know how hard that can be. Even if we try hard, even if we are conscious of it, we forget it. Or we are so into the argument, we choose not to remember it.
4. CREATIVE WAYS TO SHOW YOUR LOVE
I love this part! I’m a very creative and crafty person and I’m always looking for new projects to work on and give them to my boyfriend. I have to add too, he loves everything I make. But I don’t only mean giving physical gifts (we can’t forget about how expensive shipping those gifts can be). Saying I love you over text can turn very monotone and meaningless. And you can think, okay then, how do I say I love you without saying it if the person is not with me to show it? That’s a great question! Because I always think about that too.
What do we do? That will depend on every person. I used to send my boyfriend small videos of me singing love songs or any song for that matter. We call them concerts and they are so much fun! Find little things to share with your significant other. It will make the relationship less monotonous.
5. WHO SAID TRAVELING?
Even if the distance is a few hours. You have to move to another city to see your significant other. For me, it means I have to travel to another country. Which can be expensive, but since I love traveling, I tried not to be upset about that issue.
Exploring new cities with my boyfriend it’s so fun! And being a tourist in your hometown is also something I always enjoy. For sure, this is one of the best things to love about your long distance relationship. It’s a great opportunity to do new things with your boyfriend or girlfriend.
6. DISTANCE STRAIGHTS YOUR RELATIONSHIP
Yes. There are moments when you don’t know what to do. Or moments when you ask yourself if you should keep going, not sure if the relationship is going somewhere. But once you pass those bad thoughts, things start to look brighter. With all the problems that come with long-distance relationships, something that I always remember is how lucky I am to go through this. Because it brings so many benefits to the relationship in the long run that it makes me feel grateful too.
7. YOU REALIZE HOW STRONG (AND PATIENT) YOU ARE
During the two years I’ve been in a long distance relationship, I’ve grown as a person. I feel and see the difference in me between before starting this relationship and after. For me, all good changes. I learned many things about me; one of them, realizing how patient I am. Also, how persistent I can be when I really want something.
And this is something I really want to highlight in this post about the things to love about your long distance relationship. It is so difficult to be far away from your significant other; and we are so focused on making the relationship work, that sometimes we forget about us. About how long distance relationships change us.
So what do you think about this post? Is there something else you love about long distance relationships? Let me know in the comments!
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